Questions to ask your crush
You like them, you want to know more, and “wyd” isn't cutting it. Here are 24 questions that work over text or in person: easy openers first, then a few that actually tell you something. Or skip the one-by-one and send them all at once as a quiz.
Easy openers
Low stakes, high reward.
Beach holiday or city break?
This or that?🏖️ Beach / 🏙️ City
Night in or night out?
This or that?🛋️ Night in / 🪩 Night out
What's the last thing that made you laugh out loud?
Short text
What's your usual coffee order?
Short text
Texting or voice notes?
This or that?💬 Texting / 🎙️ Voice notes
What song have you had on repeat lately?
Short text
Getting to know you
This is where it gets interesting.
What does a perfect Saturday look like for you?
Long text
What's something you're weirdly good at?
Short text
What are you looking forward to this month?
Short text
What's the best trip you've ever taken?
Long text
Who do you text the most?
Short text
How spontaneous are you?
Scale1 I need a plan ↔ 10 Let's go now
A little flirty
Go on, ask.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Yes / No
What do you notice first about someone?
Single choiceTheir smile · Their eyes · Their sense of humour · The way they talk
What's your idea of a great first date?
Short text
Have you ever fallen for a friend?
Yes / No
How good are you at flirting?
Scale1 Hopeless ↔ 10 Smooth
Slow burn or instant spark?
This or that?🕯️ Slow burn / ⚡ Instant spark
The deeper stuff
The answers you'll actually remember.
What do most people get wrong about you?
Long text
What does a good relationship look like to you?
Long text
What's a dealbreaker for you?
Short text
What's the kindest thing someone has done for you?
Long text
What are you proud of that nobody asks about?
Short text
If we met up this week, what would you want to do?
Long text
Send these as a quiz
They answer on their phone, card by card, and you watch it happen live. You can edit any question before you send it.
Make it a quiz